Tuesday, March 15, 2022

Laila is more than a Welch

How do we help these diverse-race kids that are adopted into white families?    

The reality is ... It’s really hard to be the black/brown kid in a white family.  There’s a level of loneliness I can’t relate to.  

There are stories and experiences and history that need to be passed down that I don’t have to share with her.  She is a a Welch AND she is more.!! 

As a family we must stop thinking of ourselves as her only family.  Laila needs role models etc… that look like her.  ( J Lo, Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotamayor, ) She needs to hear the messaging that nothing is inferior.  Your culture is beautiful.  

I Need to be a better cheerleader of my child’s culture for her. 


On the plus side, I am so grateful we had brown and black cousins for Laila.  Grateful for the Morleys and Callisters who let Laila just hang out with them. 


It's a miracle we all got through this.


We are in the process of finding Laila's birth momma-- and it will be an experience for all of us.  She's hoping to have her here for the wedding in September.  That would be a miracle.


Staying grounded through all of this is the miracle...


"People usually consider walking on water or in thin air a miracle. But I think the real miracle is not to walk either on water or in thin air, but to walk on earth. Every day we are engaged in a miracle which we don't even recognize: a blue sky, white clouds, green leaves, the black, curious eyes of a child—our own two eyes. All is a miracle."

-Thich Nhat Hanh-

No comments: