So I was eating a Plates and Palates today....again. This is my neighborhood salad joint where like Norm in "Cheers" everyone knows my name. Well not everyone, but I go there often enough that the owners, Justin and Jared and some of the regular employees do.
I love this salad joint because well I love salads. I don't make salads for myself at home though. I will put together a delicious turkey avocado sandwich, tuna and pickle or PB and J on white bread. I will make veggie soup, or cauliflower cheese, or a turkey chile at the drop of a bean, but salad with all of the good stuff is not in my wheelhouse. So I love Plates and Palates to get my salad fix.
I know it's a good salad if I need a good flossing session at the end. Pear and Pecan or a Waldorf with all of the sugared nuts, seeds, fruit with multiple lettuces and sweet lemon or poppy seed dressings are a success if I have stuff stuck in my aging teeth.
I could go to Plates every week-- a couple of times, and in fact some months I do just that. It's close and it's delicious, plus I get a crusty roll with real butter with each of my salad lunches too.
I've celebrated numerous girl friend birthdays here, and some family birthdays as well. When I lunch with my sisters it's always at Plates and Palates. The two years that dad was here without mom, we wold take him to P and P for lunch-- no stairs and easy access from car to door to table. I've cried there and been the shoulder to cry on. I've laughed with and buoyed friends up there. It was where I first said to groups of people, My son is gay. My mom has cancer. My child is rebelling. My sister is dying. Some weeks having a P and P lunch date on my calendar is my one bright spot.
Almost every time I go there, there is some customer I know and can greet. Last week I ran into my cousin's son who was visiting from South Carolina...what are the chances? It was crazy, and as I'm oohing and ahing over him, my sweet relief society president and older VT person were at the table next to us.
When Plates first opened it was a few tables for food and half of the space was taken up with kitchen utensils and baking paraphernalia for sale. I also thought it might be an exercise studio and kept calling it "plates and pilates." I soon learned the error of my ways. I'm glad they got rid of the retail part and just focused on what they do best- soups, salads, sandwiches and a place where everyone knows your name.
P and P is really the best.
Thursday, February 7, 2019
Tuesday, February 5, 2019
consuming..and changing the world!
hmmm... I've been vegging out with 6 hours of videos from Jody Moore for life coach school and 2 hours of an Agatha Christie mini series. This has been a passive action snow-day. I did set up some coaching appointments for later this week...so that's good and I'm looking forward to coaching tonight at 8:30 with a YSA. I want to start a Tuesday coaching/teaching weekly with the YSA's and anyone they want to invite. I just need to figure how to get the word out and make it beneficial to them because I know this would help me get better with all of this. I want to teach mental and emotional health tools and goal setting and even weight loss for those who are interested.
I really want to change the world!
I want to teach and get friends, family and strangers to know how to have a better life by understanding that they are in charge of their thoughts and feelings and how they show up in the world and taking care of their own needs and that this is the most empowering position to have.
I could stay in learning, consuming, passive action day after day because it's easier than putting myself out there and actually being a coach.
BUT
I've learned that life is a series of results-- and results all start with a thought! Thoughts rule our world.
My thought will be my result.
T= R
Thought: I'm an amazing life coach who helps many people and earns 100K.
This is what I'm putting out into the world and telling my brain and I know this result will happen.
I really want to change the world!
I want to teach and get friends, family and strangers to know how to have a better life by understanding that they are in charge of their thoughts and feelings and how they show up in the world and taking care of their own needs and that this is the most empowering position to have.
I could stay in learning, consuming, passive action day after day because it's easier than putting myself out there and actually being a coach.
BUT
I've learned that life is a series of results-- and results all start with a thought! Thoughts rule our world.
My thought will be my result.
T= R
Thought: I'm an amazing life coach who helps many people and earns 100K.
This is what I'm putting out into the world and telling my brain and I know this result will happen.
Sunday, February 3, 2019
Jesus' nicknames
I was thinking of John 1 when Jesus Christ calls his disciple John- John the Beloved. What a beautiful, beautiful name.
So....with that in mind, I was thinking if we were back in Jesus’ day what spiritual nicknames he might give to all of my family? I came up with the following list thinking of my people’s strengths-- Wayne the Wise
Addison the Brave
Bre the Determined
Landon the Connector
Alex the Kind
Truman the Seeker
Monson the Obedient
Lexi the Tender hearted
Laila the loved
My name sounds like a Native American...Melinda the Faith walker.
So....with that in mind, I was thinking if we were back in Jesus’ day what spiritual nicknames he might give to all of my family? I came up with the following list thinking of my people’s strengths-- Wayne the Wise
Addison the Brave
Bre the Determined
Landon the Connector
Alex the Kind
Truman the Seeker
Monson the Obedient
Lexi the Tender hearted
Laila the loved
My name sounds like a Native American...Melinda the Faith walker.
Friday, February 1, 2019
Men are always running their fingers through my Hair!
My hair looks awesome. I just got done with Gary coloring my hair and it's gorgeous. Gary has done my hair for 30 years. He cuts and colors and anything else I want. I love getting my hair done. It's a therapy session and beauty session all rolled into one.
I've always had a man do my hair.
My Grandpa Butters gave me my first hair cut and continued with hair cuts til he retired- about my high school years. I remember Sunday night hair cuts in the breezeway in the summer or by his back door in the winter and every once in a while I would get a special hair cut, or color and get go into Grandpa's salon in SLC. IT was across from and west of Temple square. The corner is filled with the LDS Church History museum now. It was a prime spot. I remember being introduced to Harold B. Lee's wife when he was the Prophet. She sat by me and got her hair done chatting me and Grandpa Butters up the whole time. I always felt so grown up when I got to go into Salt Lake and see Grandpa.
Then I moved on to having my Uncle Steve perm, cut and color my hair at his hair salon in Bountiful called The Head Office . This was a "funky" space with Garfield posters and other funny saying posters on the ceiling. So when getting your hair washed you had something to read and chuckle about from the ceiling sayings. Steve had the fastest hands in the west. He could roll a perm and get you processing quicker than quick. Perms were huge in the 80's so this was a good thing.
Gary, Marcie's husband, went to hair school in his late 20's and started doing my hair from when I had little babies up until now. He started out at his home with a chair and the kitchen sink, then he had a real salon for awhile, then back to a nice salon space in his home. Gary has worked for many names in the hair industry- Broccato, Kadis, and currently KIN.
I've had numerous hair styles throughout the ages, and colors of hair. And I appreciate all of these guys. I love my hair being long and curly or wavy and that I only have to wash and do my hair once a week. Really once a week. It's pretty curly the first day and gets less and less as the week goes on, and that's okay. My hair is so dry, that it never gets oily. I actually have to add oil to my hair after I wash it.
It's crazy, I know.
Landon, my son, is now in Beauty school learning to become a hair dresser. He is excellent at it, so I can see my future now with him taking care of my hair needs. He graduates in April and then Gary is mentoring him and getting him moving forward in a salon in SLC. Landon likes cutting and really loves coloring and is so good at it already. All of the chemistry and geometry that felt like it had no application in his high school years now makes total sense in his hair school years and come easily.
Sunday night hair cutting is now delegated to Landon
Hair has always been a big deal to me and I'm grateful to all the men who have had a hand in that.
My Grandpa Butters gave me my first hair cut and continued with hair cuts til he retired- about my high school years. I remember Sunday night hair cuts in the breezeway in the summer or by his back door in the winter and every once in a while I would get a special hair cut, or color and get go into Grandpa's salon in SLC. IT was across from and west of Temple square. The corner is filled with the LDS Church History museum now. It was a prime spot. I remember being introduced to Harold B. Lee's wife when he was the Prophet. She sat by me and got her hair done chatting me and Grandpa Butters up the whole time. I always felt so grown up when I got to go into Salt Lake and see Grandpa.
Then I moved on to having my Uncle Steve perm, cut and color my hair at his hair salon in Bountiful called The Head Office . This was a "funky" space with Garfield posters and other funny saying posters on the ceiling. So when getting your hair washed you had something to read and chuckle about from the ceiling sayings. Steve had the fastest hands in the west. He could roll a perm and get you processing quicker than quick. Perms were huge in the 80's so this was a good thing.
Gary, Marcie's husband, went to hair school in his late 20's and started doing my hair from when I had little babies up until now. He started out at his home with a chair and the kitchen sink, then he had a real salon for awhile, then back to a nice salon space in his home. Gary has worked for many names in the hair industry- Broccato, Kadis, and currently KIN.
I've had numerous hair styles throughout the ages, and colors of hair. And I appreciate all of these guys. I love my hair being long and curly or wavy and that I only have to wash and do my hair once a week. Really once a week. It's pretty curly the first day and gets less and less as the week goes on, and that's okay. My hair is so dry, that it never gets oily. I actually have to add oil to my hair after I wash it.
Landon, my son, is now in Beauty school learning to become a hair dresser. He is excellent at it, so I can see my future now with him taking care of my hair needs. He graduates in April and then Gary is mentoring him and getting him moving forward in a salon in SLC. Landon likes cutting and really loves coloring and is so good at it already. All of the chemistry and geometry that felt like it had no application in his high school years now makes total sense in his hair school years and come easily.
Sunday night hair cutting is now delegated to Landon
Hair has always been a big deal to me and I'm grateful to all the men who have had a hand in that.
Saturday, January 26, 2019
What are you doing right now?
Laila is having a full day of SBO stuff... a leadership conference, supporting State Cheer competition and watching State Honors choir at the Tabernacle. She is a busy girl--
Friday, January 25, 2019
Sleep is my middle name
I sleep like a rock. It's one of my talents. I pride my self in it. I can go to sleep within just a few minutes of laying my head on the pillow. Usually I say to my Wayne..."Do you need to say anything to me? No? Okay. I love you." I close my eyes, lay flat on my back with one leg folded up like a stork and my hands crossed over my chest like I'm in a coffin. I breathe in and slowly count to eight, I hold it for four counts, then I exhale slowly for seven counts. I do this a few times and I'm out. I sleep through the night, never even needing a bathroom break.
I can sleep with snorers. I just put ear plugs in and/ or a head pillow over my eyes and folded into my ears and go to sleep. This is from decades of training, sharing a bed room with another couple for a week at Bear Lake. This is more of a challenge, but I make it work.
"I can sleep in a car. I can sleep on a chair. I can sleep in a meeting. I can sleep in the air. I can sleep in the temple or at church. I can sleep on the beach or in a lurch?" -- Dr. Seuss has got nothing on me.
You get it..... I sleep.
It could be my middle name. Melinda- sleeper extraordinaire- Welch.
I sleep.
Most nights.
Until I don't.
Then it's like what's wrong with me? Why am I still awake? What did I eat? What did I drink that had caffeine in it after 2:00? Why won't my thoughts turn off? Why does Wayne keep moving around? Where is the remote, maybe if I watch something? Where are the scriptures, they always get me sleepy? I can't believe my Si friend sleeps like this every night. I have so much to do tomorrow and I need to have my sleep! Why me? Why? All the things.
As a young mother I rarely slept through the night. No fault of my own, just all the littles having crazy night sleeps that I got to be a part of. I dragged around with tired eyes, tired thoughts and tired self pity.
I know this did me no good and now 15 years away from kid-induced-sleepless-nights I've adopted new thoughts around sleep or more particularly around my sleepless nights.
Instead of getting annoyed about these nights, I have just decided it's not that big of deal. And guess what, I usually get back to sleep quicker.....or not. And either way it's okay. I'm genuinely okay with being awake at night and just being with my thoughts and myself. I look at it as meditation instead of dwelling in self pity.
And in the morning, it's really no big deal. I might move a little slower and do things a bit differently this day but I can just be tired and not complain about it. Or... I could look for sleep aides- melatonin or ambien ...and still not complain about it.
What's worse? Fatigue and Self pity or just Fatigue?
As I move through my life coach journey it's fun to adopt ways of thinking that are different from how most of the world thinks. It's very liberating to understand my thoughts create my reality and my thoughts around "needing sleep" vs "having the perfect amount of sleep for me" help me move through my day with power instead of as a victim of my sleepless night.
I can sleep with snorers. I just put ear plugs in and/ or a head pillow over my eyes and folded into my ears and go to sleep. This is from decades of training, sharing a bed room with another couple for a week at Bear Lake. This is more of a challenge, but I make it work.
"I can sleep in a car. I can sleep on a chair. I can sleep in a meeting. I can sleep in the air. I can sleep in the temple or at church. I can sleep on the beach or in a lurch?" -- Dr. Seuss has got nothing on me.
You get it..... I sleep.
It could be my middle name. Melinda- sleeper extraordinaire- Welch.
I sleep.
Most nights.
Until I don't.
Then it's like what's wrong with me? Why am I still awake? What did I eat? What did I drink that had caffeine in it after 2:00? Why won't my thoughts turn off? Why does Wayne keep moving around? Where is the remote, maybe if I watch something? Where are the scriptures, they always get me sleepy? I can't believe my Si friend sleeps like this every night. I have so much to do tomorrow and I need to have my sleep! Why me? Why? All the things.
As a young mother I rarely slept through the night. No fault of my own, just all the littles having crazy night sleeps that I got to be a part of. I dragged around with tired eyes, tired thoughts and tired self pity.
I know this did me no good and now 15 years away from kid-induced-sleepless-nights I've adopted new thoughts around sleep or more particularly around my sleepless nights.
Instead of getting annoyed about these nights, I have just decided it's not that big of deal. And guess what, I usually get back to sleep quicker.....or not. And either way it's okay. I'm genuinely okay with being awake at night and just being with my thoughts and myself. I look at it as meditation instead of dwelling in self pity.
And in the morning, it's really no big deal. I might move a little slower and do things a bit differently this day but I can just be tired and not complain about it. Or... I could look for sleep aides- melatonin or ambien ...and still not complain about it.
What's worse? Fatigue and Self pity or just Fatigue?
As I move through my life coach journey it's fun to adopt ways of thinking that are different from how most of the world thinks. It's very liberating to understand my thoughts create my reality and my thoughts around "needing sleep" vs "having the perfect amount of sleep for me" help me move through my day with power instead of as a victim of my sleepless night.
Wednesday, January 23, 2019
Habits
Here the are habits that I have acquired which prove to me that I can conquer other areas of my life and form new life improving habits..
1. I make my bed every morning . I've been doing this since I was a little kid. My mom didn't have to remind me but she did my sister, Marcie. Marcie was the messy creative one, I was the clean driven one. I make my bed so quickly sometimes Wayne is just going to the bathroom and planning on getting back into bed and if he doesn't say something the bed is made for the day by the time he returns. I have learned to ask him now.
2 . I've conquered laundry. Laundry is a no brainer for me. Wash on cold, don't get too uptight about separating everything. Have a sock drawer, underwear drawer so I can just scoop everything up and put it in the drawer with out matching and folding everything. Everything else gets put on a hanger. I get my laundry done quick and it's never sitting around in a hamper getting more and more wrinkled as I try to find time to fold it all.
3. I go to the gym/ walk at least 3 times a week. I really try to be religious about this and the weeks this doesn't happen I just don't feel good. My day doesn't go as well. The exercise with Si or Kathleen feels like therapy and we can talk and discuss our lives. The days when I'm on my own with air pods in my ears, I listen to a book or podcast . Both are good.
4. I read/listen to scripture every morning . I started this last year and feel like it has really helped me. It sets the pace for my day and gives me something to ponder and consider. I try not to get on my phone for anything til this is accomplished.
5. I wipe down my sink and countertop when I'm done getting ready in the morning. It really is a housekeeping thing, but it's helpful. My sink and counter top area don't get as messy and gross as they could be. I wipe it down; get the make up and hair etc. out of the sink.
6. I brush my teeth morning and night. This is another no brainer. The first thing I do in the morning is wake up, stumble to the bathroom and brush my teeth. I can't stand the morning taste and the toothpaste taste really helps me to wake up.
7 . I wash my face EVERY night. I do this even is I'm not wearing make up. I do this even if it's so late and I'm so tired and just want to fall into bed. I do this on automatic. My skin isn't great, but I'm working on that as well. I'm doing a PMD every four days and using good anti aging lotion night and day.
8. Unpack the minute I get home. When I go on a trip and then return I'm all about unpacking my suitcase and getting the laundry started ASAP. I want the clothes in the hamper, the shoes back in the closet, the toiletries in the bathroom and the suitcase put away.
9. I go to church every Sunday. I love this habit. As a young mother I wondered if I would ever get to this point, but I'm here and I love it. I want to meet with like minded saints and learn together. I look forward to the sacrament and singing hymns in a congregation. I love supporting and listening to the speakers. Church is important to me and the Sundays I miss it, I feel it.
10. I send out a school email every Monday. This is habit after 11 years on this job. I make sure it gets out and I don't delegate it to another day or think it's not important. It's my way of letting my school families know what's going on in our school and it's my way of connecting with them and hopefully getting an answer in return. I need to get better at using the template, there is some frustration there, but I do get the email sent.
These habits make me realize that I can set new patterns and habits in my life. I can create neuro-pathways that move me forward. I'm thinking of the habit of speaking only good, the habit of setting an intention for the day, the habit of gratitude and the habit of writing goals down. Habits are what make a life. Good habits can make it evolve to something higher, more deliberate...more.
1. I make my bed every morning . I've been doing this since I was a little kid. My mom didn't have to remind me but she did my sister, Marcie. Marcie was the messy creative one, I was the clean driven one. I make my bed so quickly sometimes Wayne is just going to the bathroom and planning on getting back into bed and if he doesn't say something the bed is made for the day by the time he returns. I have learned to ask him now.
2 . I've conquered laundry. Laundry is a no brainer for me. Wash on cold, don't get too uptight about separating everything. Have a sock drawer, underwear drawer so I can just scoop everything up and put it in the drawer with out matching and folding everything. Everything else gets put on a hanger. I get my laundry done quick and it's never sitting around in a hamper getting more and more wrinkled as I try to find time to fold it all.
3. I go to the gym/ walk at least 3 times a week. I really try to be religious about this and the weeks this doesn't happen I just don't feel good. My day doesn't go as well. The exercise with Si or Kathleen feels like therapy and we can talk and discuss our lives. The days when I'm on my own with air pods in my ears, I listen to a book or podcast . Both are good.
4. I read/listen to scripture every morning . I started this last year and feel like it has really helped me. It sets the pace for my day and gives me something to ponder and consider. I try not to get on my phone for anything til this is accomplished.
5. I wipe down my sink and countertop when I'm done getting ready in the morning. It really is a housekeeping thing, but it's helpful. My sink and counter top area don't get as messy and gross as they could be. I wipe it down; get the make up and hair etc. out of the sink.
6. I brush my teeth morning and night. This is another no brainer. The first thing I do in the morning is wake up, stumble to the bathroom and brush my teeth. I can't stand the morning taste and the toothpaste taste really helps me to wake up.
7 . I wash my face EVERY night. I do this even is I'm not wearing make up. I do this even if it's so late and I'm so tired and just want to fall into bed. I do this on automatic. My skin isn't great, but I'm working on that as well. I'm doing a PMD every four days and using good anti aging lotion night and day.
8. Unpack the minute I get home. When I go on a trip and then return I'm all about unpacking my suitcase and getting the laundry started ASAP. I want the clothes in the hamper, the shoes back in the closet, the toiletries in the bathroom and the suitcase put away.
9. I go to church every Sunday. I love this habit. As a young mother I wondered if I would ever get to this point, but I'm here and I love it. I want to meet with like minded saints and learn together. I look forward to the sacrament and singing hymns in a congregation. I love supporting and listening to the speakers. Church is important to me and the Sundays I miss it, I feel it.
10. I send out a school email every Monday. This is habit after 11 years on this job. I make sure it gets out and I don't delegate it to another day or think it's not important. It's my way of letting my school families know what's going on in our school and it's my way of connecting with them and hopefully getting an answer in return. I need to get better at using the template, there is some frustration there, but I do get the email sent.
These habits make me realize that I can set new patterns and habits in my life. I can create neuro-pathways that move me forward. I'm thinking of the habit of speaking only good, the habit of setting an intention for the day, the habit of gratitude and the habit of writing goals down. Habits are what make a life. Good habits can make it evolve to something higher, more deliberate...more.
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