It's time to celebrate our loved ones. I like some of our traditions, and I want to change some of it as well. Do we have to meet at a cemetery? Aren't there other places to do this? I feel closer to Tom at the family cabin. I feel closer to my parents at Bear Lake. I feel closer to my grandparents when I smell a rose, eat a ginger cream or see ballroom dancing.
We have been gathering on Sunday night of Memorial weekend around Tom's grave for 20 years now...and it's good. We share stories about Tom and remembrances, sometimes sing "Love at Home," and have sour patch Watermelon candy and Creamies Ice cream. We have shared the SAME stories over and over-- Hunter and the "Feels like a corn dog" story, Addison and his flying grasshopper that Grandpa killed, Brad going up with Grandpa to the cabin over and over......it's pretty standard, but I want more. This year I shared Tom's obituary -- so we would have those memories.... What else could we be doing? Maybe come up with new stories-- research something? We will continue doing this while Wanee is alive, but who knows what it will look like after that.
We go to my parents, my grandparents and Marcie and Preston's gravesites at Lakeview Cemetery on Memorial Day... I take the books I made in remembrance of my mom and my dad and we look through those pictures, read some of it out loud, sometimes we sing "Love at Home" or "Once I went in Swimming." This year, Monson made cake in honor of Grandma Sheri who was a cake maker. I cried thinking about how so many things change. Addison and Landon joined with me in the tears.